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Post by DonaldCengXiongAzuma on Apr 2, 2019 11:28:42 GMT 5
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Post by malikc6 on Apr 18, 2019 14:51:49 GMT 5
I believe that women as a collective go more towards men that look good to them. Alpha traits if you will. Personality is secondary. Women are more selective by nature while men are much less selective. There's other factors but fundamentally I believe it is looks and other alpha traits.
Confidence I truly believe is nothing more than a delusion when it comes down to this type of stuff. Confidence is a good thing to hold onto, but what you think about yourself may not be how others view you. You could be the most confident person in the world and know how to play the basics of chess, and you will always lose against any experienced chess player. Same with a confident fighter that only knows the basics going up against an experienced fighter.
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Post by theropod on Apr 20, 2019 23:41:05 GMT 5
^The thing is, humans can be extremely susceptible to suggestion.
There’s a passage from A Game of Thrones about the first sword of Braavos that nicely sums that up, in case you know it, but there are lots of cases in real life too. For example, in polychaete research there seems to be a bit of a tendency to see ganglia and nuchal organs where there are none, simply because others have claimed they were present and subsequently people saw what they were trying to see.
In other words, regarding human mate-choice, confidence can make someone appear more attractive, simply because people are more willing to think someone is attractive if they themselves already seem convinced of it. Generally speaking human courtship display in the modern day doesn’t involve fightig any more, but even in a fight the same thing can apply. A superior fighter might still be tricked into questioning their chances if their opponent seems very confident (even if they are just pretending to be), and a lack of confidence can be as dangerous as overconfidence. Conversely, of course that confidence is not going to transform a slouch into a top class fighter, but it does undeniably help, because someone who fights to the best of their limited abilities still stands much better chances than someone who gives up right away and doesn’t fight at all, and with all the incalculables of a fight (just like mate choice!) that alone might very well change the outcome even against an experienced fighter in some cases.
Of course not everyone is going to fall for those kinds of tricks, but we’re talking statistically here. Also, sad truth, but most humans are in fact stupid.
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Post by DonaldCengXiongAzuma on Jun 23, 2019 18:55:46 GMT 5
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Post by leo on Jun 26, 2019 22:06:00 GMT 5
Not really , I observed the mean dudes get the worst girls anencephaly the nice guys get the best girls in looks and personality.
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Post by sam1 on Jun 26, 2019 23:17:48 GMT 5
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Post by creature386 on Oct 22, 2019 19:54:39 GMT 5
I hope everyone in these discussions realizes that "nice guys" and "bad boys" are essentially stock characters/stereotypes rather than strict categories into which every man on the planet falls.
To be fair, I have seen no evidence so far that anyone here thinks this is the case, but going form what people on Carnivora seem to believe, I just wanted to be sure. Sorry for the necropost, by the way, but I wanted to say something on the matter without getting in the current discussions on Carnivora.
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Post by Infinity Blade on Oct 22, 2019 22:44:38 GMT 5
Just being a nice person isn't going to get you into a romantic relationship. Really, it comes down to whether or not you yourself as a person, what with your personality; quirks; even your appearance, etc., appeal to your love interest (although, being "nice", as in being a decent human being, should be a part of that). Not everyone in the demographic you are sexually attracted to is the same; some may like you for what makes you you and may even become romantically interested in you, others won't. If you're interested in a relationship with someone, it's your job to find out who that person is.
Did I get it right?
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Post by creature386 on Oct 23, 2019 0:55:20 GMT 5
Just being a nice person isn't going to get you into a romantic relationship. Really, it comes down to whether or not you yourself as a person, what with your personality; quirks; even your appearance, etc., appeal to your love interest (although, being "nice", as in being a decent human being, should be a part of that). Not everyone in the demographic you are sexually attracted to is the same; some may like you for what makes you you and may even become romantically interested in you, others won't. If you're interested in a relationship with someone, it's your job to find out who that person is. Did I get it right? If you're looking for a long-term relationship, compatibility is a must. People are more superficial in short-term relationships though. That's where "bad boys" score well. There's plenty of research ( example) on how antisocial men (psychopaths, narcissists, etc.) tend to have more sexual partners than prosocial men. But as the linked study shows, their mating strategy is for short-term relationships. |
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