Post by malikc6 on Jan 3, 2015 16:36:23 GMT 5
This is just what I have to say as some advice in life. You guys may all know this, but what's wrong with a little repeating every once in a while? Here is what I want to say.
The very first friend I ever made in high school turned out to be a lying narcissist as well as a hypersensitive. He went as far as to tell other friends about me lies so that when I met them, they would already have bad view on me out of fear that we would become friends and leave him. He also loved comparing people and felt he was superior to others and even admitted it openly many times. Because of so many reasons, I got rid of him as a friend.
From what I gathered and know, narcissist types tend to play victim quite a lot, and often had past unstable relationships. They lie/trick others into believing that they are the victim, and this has worked against therapists/psychologists/psychiatrists believe it or not. A lot of these people also tend to be sociopathic and compulsively lie. They may even just be straight up rude to you for no particular reason other than to feed on your happiness, or test to see how much you will tolerate their behavior. A good example is when they will bring up minor issues from the past that mean nothing other than to start problems. For example, you say hi to your ex girlfriend or something, and she reacts aggressively and confronts you about saying hi even though you're simply being polite. Have you all dealt with someone who delighted in drama, and loved to see people having a bad day so they can feed from it? Have you ever had a good day, only for one of your friends or even family, basically say something or do something that takes away your happiness?
These narcissists feed from happiness because overall, they have very little egos and often have insecurities. They can't stand seeing someone in a state of content and happiness. They also can't stand not being the center of attention all the time. Do you know anyone like this? Someone who always wants to be the dominant one in literally every conversation and says crap that is meant to completely throw someone's point out the door like if it didn't matter? What about telling someone something important, and they eventually come around and try to use it against you?
"Hey come with me to the club and lets hit on some girls."
"But I'm married (or have a girlfriend). I don't think it's a good idea.
"Your girlfriend isn't as hot as these *****es in the club. Come on she will never know."
"But why would I betray her like that? I love her and would never cheat on her. Sorry but you have to find someone else."
"But you're my best friend. Aren't you? I thought we we're friends..."
THAT kind of crap. You might have said to them previously that they are a good friend, and narcissists LOVE that because now, all they have to do is use you like a pet dog by saying "I thought we were friends" or threatening to end the friendship so that you will give in to their demands. Funny enough, narcissists tend to NOT give up their quote on quote "friends", because they need their "chargers." That's literally the only reason why they have friends, so that they could feed on them. Sure they will start off normal for a while, and then you will notice their behavior change. It may take years to catch on depending how good the narcissist is. Heck some of them may even do something very nice for you a couple times, but they will put you in debt with those favors. A good example is if your new boyfriend or girlfriend bought you something nice, cooked up a decent meal for you, and had as much sex as you wanted. Or lets say your best friend bought you a game console and a bunch of games for you, and you're all happy and stuff. Eventually they may use that to their advantage by saying that you owe them something, or that you have to do something for them in exchange. These people don't know the concept of generosity and obligation. They give to put you in debt, so they can continue to feed from you, and other victims.
And PLEASE remember this to. These emotional vampires are EXPERTS at playing victim. Sometimes a person will catch on to their friend's behavior, and decide to end the friendship/bf/gf relationship, but the narcissistic will quickly think of a way to save him/herself to continue using the person as emotional food. They will lie about their past and play victim and tell you a bunch of sob stories on the made up crap that used to happen to them. Lying about domestic abuse, rape, having a hard life, or whatever. Then they may say "WHY ARE YOU LEAVING ME WHEN I NEED YOU THE MOST? I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME! I THOUGHT I WAS YOUR BEST FRIEND!"
"OH IM SORRY FOR WHAT I SAID/DID. ITS JUST THAT IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH SO MUCH RIGHT NOW, AND ITS HARD TO CONTROL MYSELF."
"GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE! I PROMISE ILL DO BETTER! I DON'T MEAN TO!"
PLEASE people, don't buy into that crap. I have fallen for this many times, only for the same crap to happen again. I tell you, some of these people can put on quite a show for you. Cry, scream, send you notes with more apologies, and even extreme ones like offer you sexual favors just so they can have their pet back. They are literally THAT desperate. it can be hard sometimes to see them in such a state of sadness and end your ties with them, but just know that they are merely acting, and simply trying to keep their pet/pets. If you don't give them up, they will continue you take advantage of you, anger or sadden you, and overall feed from you, and then justify it so well that it makes you look like the bad guy.
I for the most part, have interacted with people who were toxic and didn't know it until I got older, and after I ran into this enlightening youtube channel that woke me up.
I seriously advise that you all watch his videos, and you may learn something and probably suspect/realize that you all may be hanging around a toxic type of person.
I am a victim of many people like this, growing up with aspergers syndrome and not being very aware of those who I hung around. These people are unfortunately very common these days. As a victim of narcissist abuse, I don't want anyone else to have go through the stuff I had to. I'm still hurt by the stuff that has happened to me, especially the very first friend I ever made in highschool that lasted 2 in a half years. Went normal, supported and advised him, was a good friend, but in the end, he saw everything differently. Same thing with my first and 2nd relationships. One acted like a victim to justify her stupid behavior and often hurt herself over it, and the other only caused pain to me, and justified it by saying her mother is abusive and that her previous relationships were crap. Before I moved from San Diego, I actually was with even worse people. I just thought it was normal after a while. Anyways, I simply want you all to avoid toxic people, and learn to separate the good from the bad a lot better. Begood4000 sure did, along with life experience.
Ill post the link again.
www.youtube.com/user/begood4000/videos
Enjoy everyone.
The very first friend I ever made in high school turned out to be a lying narcissist as well as a hypersensitive. He went as far as to tell other friends about me lies so that when I met them, they would already have bad view on me out of fear that we would become friends and leave him. He also loved comparing people and felt he was superior to others and even admitted it openly many times. Because of so many reasons, I got rid of him as a friend.
From what I gathered and know, narcissist types tend to play victim quite a lot, and often had past unstable relationships. They lie/trick others into believing that they are the victim, and this has worked against therapists/psychologists/psychiatrists believe it or not. A lot of these people also tend to be sociopathic and compulsively lie. They may even just be straight up rude to you for no particular reason other than to feed on your happiness, or test to see how much you will tolerate their behavior. A good example is when they will bring up minor issues from the past that mean nothing other than to start problems. For example, you say hi to your ex girlfriend or something, and she reacts aggressively and confronts you about saying hi even though you're simply being polite. Have you all dealt with someone who delighted in drama, and loved to see people having a bad day so they can feed from it? Have you ever had a good day, only for one of your friends or even family, basically say something or do something that takes away your happiness?
These narcissists feed from happiness because overall, they have very little egos and often have insecurities. They can't stand seeing someone in a state of content and happiness. They also can't stand not being the center of attention all the time. Do you know anyone like this? Someone who always wants to be the dominant one in literally every conversation and says crap that is meant to completely throw someone's point out the door like if it didn't matter? What about telling someone something important, and they eventually come around and try to use it against you?
"Hey come with me to the club and lets hit on some girls."
"But I'm married (or have a girlfriend). I don't think it's a good idea.
"Your girlfriend isn't as hot as these *****es in the club. Come on she will never know."
"But why would I betray her like that? I love her and would never cheat on her. Sorry but you have to find someone else."
"But you're my best friend. Aren't you? I thought we we're friends..."
THAT kind of crap. You might have said to them previously that they are a good friend, and narcissists LOVE that because now, all they have to do is use you like a pet dog by saying "I thought we were friends" or threatening to end the friendship so that you will give in to their demands. Funny enough, narcissists tend to NOT give up their quote on quote "friends", because they need their "chargers." That's literally the only reason why they have friends, so that they could feed on them. Sure they will start off normal for a while, and then you will notice their behavior change. It may take years to catch on depending how good the narcissist is. Heck some of them may even do something very nice for you a couple times, but they will put you in debt with those favors. A good example is if your new boyfriend or girlfriend bought you something nice, cooked up a decent meal for you, and had as much sex as you wanted. Or lets say your best friend bought you a game console and a bunch of games for you, and you're all happy and stuff. Eventually they may use that to their advantage by saying that you owe them something, or that you have to do something for them in exchange. These people don't know the concept of generosity and obligation. They give to put you in debt, so they can continue to feed from you, and other victims.
And PLEASE remember this to. These emotional vampires are EXPERTS at playing victim. Sometimes a person will catch on to their friend's behavior, and decide to end the friendship/bf/gf relationship, but the narcissistic will quickly think of a way to save him/herself to continue using the person as emotional food. They will lie about their past and play victim and tell you a bunch of sob stories on the made up crap that used to happen to them. Lying about domestic abuse, rape, having a hard life, or whatever. Then they may say "WHY ARE YOU LEAVING ME WHEN I NEED YOU THE MOST? I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME! I THOUGHT I WAS YOUR BEST FRIEND!"
"OH IM SORRY FOR WHAT I SAID/DID. ITS JUST THAT IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH SO MUCH RIGHT NOW, AND ITS HARD TO CONTROL MYSELF."
"GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE! I PROMISE ILL DO BETTER! I DON'T MEAN TO!"
PLEASE people, don't buy into that crap. I have fallen for this many times, only for the same crap to happen again. I tell you, some of these people can put on quite a show for you. Cry, scream, send you notes with more apologies, and even extreme ones like offer you sexual favors just so they can have their pet back. They are literally THAT desperate. it can be hard sometimes to see them in such a state of sadness and end your ties with them, but just know that they are merely acting, and simply trying to keep their pet/pets. If you don't give them up, they will continue you take advantage of you, anger or sadden you, and overall feed from you, and then justify it so well that it makes you look like the bad guy.
I for the most part, have interacted with people who were toxic and didn't know it until I got older, and after I ran into this enlightening youtube channel that woke me up.
I seriously advise that you all watch his videos, and you may learn something and probably suspect/realize that you all may be hanging around a toxic type of person.
I am a victim of many people like this, growing up with aspergers syndrome and not being very aware of those who I hung around. These people are unfortunately very common these days. As a victim of narcissist abuse, I don't want anyone else to have go through the stuff I had to. I'm still hurt by the stuff that has happened to me, especially the very first friend I ever made in highschool that lasted 2 in a half years. Went normal, supported and advised him, was a good friend, but in the end, he saw everything differently. Same thing with my first and 2nd relationships. One acted like a victim to justify her stupid behavior and often hurt herself over it, and the other only caused pain to me, and justified it by saying her mother is abusive and that her previous relationships were crap. Before I moved from San Diego, I actually was with even worse people. I just thought it was normal after a while. Anyways, I simply want you all to avoid toxic people, and learn to separate the good from the bad a lot better. Begood4000 sure did, along with life experience.
Ill post the link again.
www.youtube.com/user/begood4000/videos
Enjoy everyone.
